Ugh, I thought I was done with the awkwardness of dating once I got married! Apparently not so. I'm currently enjoying torturing myself and obsessing over whether or not to ask this question:
"Are you Kid Friend's mom?"
Why would I feel nervous to ask that? Why would I feel compelled to ask that? Well, because Kid Friend is blond and fair as can be. Mom (?) is a visible minority. And from what I know of genetics, that isn't very possible. However, it is possible he's adopted, or is her step-kid, so assuming this woman is the nanny just feels wrong, and racist. Add to that the fact that I overheard her say goodbye and she hugged and kissed Kid Friend and said "I love you", and I'm not really sure if a nanny would do that.
So the trouble is I want to invite Kid Friend for a playdate, because B1 will not stop talking about this guy. But I really don't want to insult who might be his mother by asking this question. I SAW her with him, and I wouldn't ask if she was his mom if he had darker hair and skin. So why do I feel like asking in this case??
I just really don't want to risk offending someone who could be in our lives for a long time, if these boys grow to be friends, over such a stupid question.
Maybe I could get someone else to ask her for me or drop a hint that I'm interested. That used to work with guys sometimes when I was single.